Since retiring nearly three years ago and now starting a YouTube channel I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about retirement, which is an exciting new chapter I’m stepping into.
If you know me or seen my previous videos or blogs you’ve probably guessed, I’m a pretty big introvert. So I’ve been thinking as an introvert how will I do in retirement. If you’re an introvert maybe you’ve been wondering the same thing. Hopefully, I have some thoughts that might alleviate some of your fears.
Funny thing is, throughout my career, I really pushed myself to be more outgoing. Trying to speak up more in crowds, joining a few civic groups and even tackling public speaking (which, let me tell you, was always a bit of a hurdle!). I think a lot of us introverts feel that pressure to be a little less… well, introverted.
But now that the work life is winding down, a question keeps popping into my head: how will this whole retirement thing really be for an introvert like me? Will I end up like a modern-day Howard Hughes, happily (or maybe not so happily) tucked away at home? I am a homebody, no doubt about it, and cherish my alone time. There’s nothing quite like it for recharging my batteries.
But the thought of becoming completely reclusive? That’s not really what I want either. I absolutely love spending time with my family and friends. Nothing better than cheering on the grandkids at their activities. And Anita and I are really looking forward to exploring some hobbies together, like getting our hands dirty in the garden and maybe even doing a little more traveling.
So, being the curious soul I am, I decided to ask my new AI buddy, Gemini, “How do introverts do in retirement?” Seriously, this AI stuff is pretty cool! And it came up with some really interesting points, both the good and the… well, the potentially challenging. Let me share what it said:
The Upside for Us Quiet Types in Retirement:
- More Say in Socializing: Finally! No more forced water cooler chats or endless meetings. Retirement means we get to choose when and how we socialize. It’s about those meaningful connections that actually give us energy, not the ones that leave us feeling drained.
- Alone Time (My Happy Place!): This is a big one for me. More time for reading, maybe getting back to writing, tending to the garden, or just simply enjoying the quiet of my own company. Sounds pretty good, right?
- My Schedule, My Rules: No more rigid routines dictated by work. We get to design our days in a way that truly fits our energy levels and what we feel like doing. (I’ll discuss this a little later.)
The Potential Bumps in the Road (and How We Might Navigate Them):
- The Loneliness Factor: Okay, this is a real concern. While we love our alone time, too much of it can be isolating. Gemini suggested making a conscious effort to maintain those important connections. Maybe scheduling regular coffee dates with a friend or making sure we’re there for those family gatherings.
- Losing Structure: Going from a structured workday to wide-open days can be a bit disorienting. Gemini’s advice? Create a flexible but still somewhat consistent routine. Include time for both solo activities and those chosen social moments.
- Feeling Invisible: This one resonated with me. Sometimes, when you’re not in the hustle and bustle of work, you can feel a bit… unseen. Gemini suggested actively participating when we feel comfortable, even if it’s just sharing a thought here and there. It’s about finding our voice in our own way.
So, how do we make this retirement thing work for us introverts? Here’s a little recap based on Gemini’s wisdom and my own thoughts:
- Embrace That Quiet Time: It’s our superpower!
- Be Picky About People Time: Choose quality over quantity.
- Dive Deep into Solo Hobbies: Now’s our chance! (to do the things we want to do)
- Volunteer Wisely: Find something meaningful that doesn’t drain us.
- Make Our Home Our Sanctuary: A comfortable and peaceful space is key. (This has never been a concern. As I traveled all over the country during my career, I was always ready to get back home. Anita made our home always feel homey (if that’s a word) Our home is our comfortable and peaceful space and I have Anita to thank for that.)
What I’ve Done So Far and My Final Thoughts
After a few months of kicking around the house, napping a lot and getting in Anita’s way, I decided I needed a normal routine. So I went out and rented a small office in an Executive Office Building just a few blocks from the house. I got a desk, printer, TV and a couple of chairs and set up an office. So now, each morning I get up early and go to the office, pay some bills, do some reading, watch the business channel, write a blog post or two each week and now work to grow my YouTube channel. I have a chance to be around some like minded business people in the office to discuss topics of the day and when I need time alone I can just shut my door. Perfect! I’m home for lunch around 11:00 and back to the office if I feel like it around 1:00 if not I’m done for the day. This is probably the best thing I’ve done so far.
As far as gardening, I showed last summer I’m not the one in the family with a green thumb. So this year Anita is going to take charge of the garden and I will be the helper. We’re expecting much better results.
Honestly, I’m feeling pretty optimistic about retirement as an introvert. It feels like a chance to finally lean into who I truly am, to enjoy the quiet moments, and to connect with the people I care about on my own terms. It might take a little figuring out to find that perfect balance, but I really believe we introverts can absolutely thrive in these unwinding years. Here’s to a peaceful and fulfilling retirement for all of us!
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